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Also see: How to advise the laymen with wisdom | Sh. 'Ubayd al-Jaabiree https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZZjh2ZyT00 Don't be too hasty to forbid the evil | Abu Mu'aadh Taqweem Aslam https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKWo8D6vKs8 Tremendous advice on how to treat your parents | Sh. 'Abdullaah al-Bukhaaree https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l99slU8W0FQ Questioner: "May Allaah bless you, O shaykh. I’m a questioner from Morocco and my father doesn’t like Salafis. I am a young man aged 17. How do I interact with my father?" Answer by Shaykh 'Ubayd: "I say : this is caused by one of two reasons, according to what has become apparent to me through my analysis of the situations of the practicing Muslims with their parents. The first reason is : him being harsh when he commands his family with good or forbids them from evil. In fact he is supposed to be soft and gentle with them, to show love to them, to serve them and to obey them in everything that isn’t disobedience to Allaah. This is why many parents from the commonfolk dislike ascribing to Salafiyyah and dislike practicing (of the religion), thinking that all of the practicing muslims are [harsh] like this and that this is the way of Salafiyyah in interacting with one's relatives. These thoughts were placed in their hearts by the devil, and the cause of that is the harshness of some. So if you, O my son, are like this, then improve your situation with your family, your parents and your siblings. Show them love, be soft with them and let them hear tapes of admonitions (lectures, etc). Read upon them books like « Riyaad as-Saaliheen » & « the Fourty Hadeeth of an-Nawawi » in your family gatherings. Also, make alot of supplications for them during your nightprayer, between the adhaan & the iqaamah and between the tashahhud & the salaam (in the end of your prayer). The second reason is : the environment & surroundings of the family. If their environment is a righteous & religious community, then they will be (positively) affected by it and they will come to know that this is the Sunnah. But if they are surrounded by an evil community which has no good in it, and they have become used to evil habits & traits, then they will reject the person that comes to them with something they don’t know (and are not familiar with). So my advice is these practicing people teach their parents & siblings that which they can comprehend from the Sunnah. Such as teaching them the prayer and clarifying its virtue. Yes. So I advise you to do what you can, and do not show your father any harshness or malicious joy. If you are able to let him accompany you to the mosques that have lessons of knowledge and Sunnah, then do so."
